Tag Archives: shame

The Scream

You wouldn’t expect an American to suffer much culture shock in Ireland; so similar are the two nations’ customs and values. But after a month living in a remote area of northwest Ireland I felt disconnected and discouraged. The people … Continue reading

Posted in Facing old wounds, freedom, Grief, happiness, Ireland, Joy, Music, philosophy, recovery, sobriety, spirituality, sports, substance abuse, Suffering, travel, Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

A Good Lawyer and a Sad Son

Once I was invited to the retirement party of a fond acquaintance, a well respected lawyer. He was a man I personally knew to be honest as well as exceedingly good at his profession. The party was fun; full of … Continue reading

Posted in Depression, Facing old wounds, Grief, happiness, recovery, spirituality, Suffering | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

I Dig Your Mirth

In the late 1970s I lived in a rural university town where a significant number of people were thought of as hippies. They rejected prevailing bourgeois values and led back-to-the-land lifestyles. I respected their bold, independent ways and imagined myself … Continue reading

Posted in Depression, freedom, happiness, India, Joy, meaningful life, Mirth, philosophy, recovery, Sense of Humor, sobriety, spirituality, substance abuse, Suffering, travel | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 6 Comments

Your Sex Life on Porn

Once I was invited to the off-campus home of some male college students.  As I approached the front door I could see through an opening in the curtain of the large picture window.  The TV was on and they were … Continue reading

Posted in freedom, happiness, meaningful life, philosophy, Pornography, sexuality, sobriety, spirituality, Teun Hocks | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Extremism At Its Finest

When Adolf Hitler and the Nazis rose to power in the 1930s, another radical social movement was gaining ground in the United States.  This movement had to flop, many believed, not only because the problem it addressed was so intractable, … Continue reading

Posted in Alcohol and drinking, freedom, happiness, India, meaningful life, philosophy, recovery, sobriety, spirituality, substance abuse, The Brownies, travel | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

The Anxiety Club

One warm September day in 1998, five of us from St. John’s College went for a swim in the Chesapeake Bay at a beach about ten miles from campus.  It was so much fun we kept going back, even into … Continue reading

Posted in freedom, happiness, Kierkegaard, meaningful life, philosophy, spirituality | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Shame and the Examined Life

It’s easy to think of Socrates’ famous call to the examined life as a masculine endeavor.  I’ve seen the quote tattooed on a man’s arm, heard it in locker room speeches, and felt its tug on my own soul.  A … Continue reading

Posted in Alcohol and drinking, happiness, meaningful life, philosophy, recovery, sobriety, spirituality, substance abuse | Tagged , , , , , , , , , | 1 Comment